Female Sexual Dysfunction

[mary07]

I have been married for 3 years now and I am 23 years old. My husband is the only man i have ever been with and an not on medication and never had any surgeries in the pelvic region. I have never had an orgasm during sex or any pleasurable significant feeling. Most times I dry up and sex will become painful, I don't know whats wrong with me. I talked to a doctor once they told me to read a book, not very helpful. Any good advice out there?

[nefertiti]

I'm am in almost the exact same boat as you. I've been married a little over 2 years and my husband is the only man I've ever been with and I've never had any sort of satisfaction at all and sex is almost always painful. I've also been to doctors and read books and nothing seems to make any difference. We have a wonderful relationship other than that and I want to have sex with him it's just that when we do it's bad. I really don't know where to go from here except to just stop trying for awhile.

[fireflow]

Well I've been with more than one man in my lifetime and sex has never been good for me with anybody. I can have an orgasm through masterbation, but that's the only way. I am married now and I have a very good relationship with my husband, however, he doesn't know about my problem. I figured it would probably ruin it for him if he knew about it. So I just suffer in silince. I have been to a sex therapist and all I got out of that was some books to read. It has got to be something out there that can help! It seems like there is all types of help for men with sexual problems. Wouldn't it be nice to get that kind of help for women!

[kcunningham]

It sounds like your husband needs to take a little more time in the foreplay department, perhaps.
Astro Glide is a good lubricant for dryness. As women, I believe we need to teach our partners how to please us. We are all different in our likes and dislikes. Most men, 99% want us to tell them what we need. They really want to please us !! Its up to us to be up front and honest on what we like and desire. If we continue to tell our partners how great they are and they are not, you are stuck with him believing he is pleasing you. He needs to know the truth. Teach him how to arouse you and don't feel embarressed as hopefully he will be your husband forever. Good Luck.