Erectile Dysfunction

[desperate4help]

pls help if you can...i am the girlfriend of a wonderful man whom i love very much. trouble is we are being torn apart by ED. We have not had intercourse in at least 1 yr. He won't touch me, nor does he show any interest in being intimate with me. Most of the time when I have tried to initiate, he recoils from me--so as a result I have not done that too often, because I can't handle the rejection.
We used to take Cialis for us to have intercourse but he stopped...I don't know know why because he will not discuss the issue with me. AT ALL. Everytime I ask for us to try something, (pills, erotica, counseling, etc.) he clams up and gets absolutely furious, and mean. He will literally get up from the table and leave, or hang up on me if we are talking on the phone. He refuses to talk with me on this issue and it is tearing us apart. I feel so rejected, and I don't know what to do to help him I KNOW he feels alone and is depressed about it, but he will not open up to me.
I NEED love and some sort of intimacy in my life...how can I get him to understand that I also have needs that need to be met, and that I don't want to criticize. I want to help!
Why won't he let me 'in' to help US? It is making me so depressed I don't know what to do anymore.
We are drowning, and sometimes I just want to die...!!!
HELP!!

[rondantz]

Have you ever thought that your boyfriend "could" be gay? Think it over...

[concernedgirl08]

Noo dont say that. thats really mean.

read this post

http://forum.urologychannel.com/hc-forum/erectile-dysfunction_peer-to-peer_f271/i-got-my-man-an-oq-ring-and-i_t47596.html

[noup]

I realize that this may be hard for you to understand, but your boyfriend is going through what is known as the "ANGER" stage of ED right now. He`s angry at you, at people close to him, But mostly at himself. It`s very frustrating for you, but this stage will soon pass, and he will enter into a stage of "ACCEPTANCE". He will be more willing to look at your offers to help then, so your relationship will greatly improve. Meanwhile, you must let him work through this phase, but keep a watchful eye on his emotional state. The best help you can be right now is to stay close to him, and try to keep his mind occupied on anything but sex. Do not initiate, or even bring it into a conversation. I really do understand your own sexual needs, but if you really love him, then try to resort to self masturbation until he reaches the end of this stage. It won`t take too long, and things will be much easier for you then. It seems as though you are already aware of what meds and crutches to try, so I`m pretty confident that you will be OK before too long.

Good Luck to you both.